So my best guy-friend (Lets call him B) that I've known since elementary (but got became closer in HS) has been dating this girl (lets call her C) on and off for a few years. I never got to know her nor did I really like C that much but I try not to hate and I've always been the kind to be nice to people no matter how much I dislike them. I got to know her a little but she's always been kind of defensive and at times rude and snide about things. Since they started dating, B and I haven't been as close as we were back then, which I'm okay with because I understand when you have a gf you put more time into the relationship. We still hung out with the same friends and I still consider and call him my best friend.

So recently, I hung out with another mutual friend and somehow we got on to the topic of how B and C aren't exactly together (he had broken up with her and somehow she ended up living with him - with his parents and pretty much lives off him). She doesn't have a job... doesn't want to live at home. The conversation somehow ended up about how he thinks C is jealous of me and B. I laughed when he said this but could it possibly be true? I was pretty surprised at this because I haven't really been all that close to B at all the past few years because of her and truthfully, in the beginning, I was jealous of HER for taking my best friend from me, but it happens and I eventually got to know and somewhat like her. Why is it that girls are just naturally so defensive and jealous?

This is not the first time I've heard this, but just not about B and C. Every guy friend I've had, I've had slowly leave me for some girl who somehow ends up being jealous of me. I've dated a few guys but I've never been jealous of their best girl friend. I've heard of the "insecurities" and all that - and trust me, I'm pretty insecure too when it comes to relationships but I've never been the crazy, jealous type. I've been single for most of my 22 years (happily), I've dated a few guys and I've been cheated on so yes, I'm definitely insecure even when I try my best not to show it but I don't see why girls get defensive with their boyfriends' girl - friends... I don't think I've ever done anything that would make her jealous. I don't bring up "the past" about our friendship when she's around, I try to include her in everything -- even helping her find a job and I don't call him as often as I used to.

Maybe I'm just not like most girls but I don't know what to think of this....

On Friendship.
This was always my life. I loved when things are simple, I mean, who doesn't. But there are always those people who like to make things complicated. Who can't and don't want life to be simple - and I have nothing against those people. Except when they pull me into their world of complex needs. I understand that we've been friends forever but you should understand that people grow up and grow apart.

I feel like I'm the only one moving forward -- both in my career and my attitude.You have always been living life and moving at a slow speed but it seems like you're still in that one spot. Or maybe you enjoy it there - but I never did. Thank you for being there for me through JHS, HS and parts of college, but I'm older now and life isn't as simple as it was back then. I can't always go along with your childish games and I can't just take off work whenever you decide you want to go to the beach or take a trip somewhere. Just because you all have part-time jobs and can (and even though some of you can't) afford the trip, both money and time wise. I can't. I feel like you'll never grow up, that you'll never change your childish ways and I'm sorry if you hate me for turning you away, but I'm no longer the girl you can depend on and we all know I've never depended on anyone to get to where I am.

I've always been nice and okay with everything because I never had the strength to deny you but I won't be taken advantage of anymore. Even the others can see that you take advantage of me, calling me out so I can drive you somewhere, coming over because I have a big place, calling on me for a shoulder to cry on. What about me? Did you ever stop to really care about what's going on in my life? How I'm the only one holding my family together? How I put on a face everywhere I go because I've always been the "independent" one, the "responsible" one, and the "nice" one. I'm tired of it. But you will never know because all you think about is yourself.

You'll wonder why I don't want to be around you anymore. And why I'd rather be with other friends than be with you. And you'll think I betrayed you, or I'm a social climber. And maybe you'll even hate me. But I don't have a choice anymore. You're toxic.

On Love.
I've been single for a while now and I have no problem with that, but it makes you wonder sometimes: Why haven't I found the right one? What's wrong with me? Why does everyone have a boyfriend except me? These questions usually come in play sometimes when I'm around my friends, who are all coupled up. It's not that bad for me because I always see them arguing and fighting and I don't want to deal with that. Plus, I've been single for so long that I'm so used to it now. I can do what I want, when I want.

And I know nothing's wrong with me. I'm decent looking, outgoing, young, successful, and independent. I know it's just because I haven't found the right one, or maybe like a friend of mine, who's not single and I recently started talking to again -- whom by the way, we always talk in a flirty way and we've always had a spark but he's always had a girlfriend -- said to me that I'm picky. And maybe I am. I know what I want, just like every woman should. I don't want to settle for just anyone that comes along and all the good ones are quickly taken.

So, what do I do? Just keep on waiting.